The Key To Moving Forward And Embracing The Present Is Forgiveness! By Bev Moss
The vast majority of people today have a misconception of what the word “forgive-ness” means! People say: “I’ve got nothing to forgive”, or “I don’t want to forgive them for that!”, or “I will forgive, but never forget”.
Some think that forgiveness is a part of some Religious order.
Lets face it - we can’t undo what has been done - its history . But, and a big but, when you don’t forgive - you keep yourself in prison, plain and simple. What we can do and be pro-active and powerful in the moment is begin a process of becoming detached from the pain (the incident/s).
When we are in a state of unforgiveness, we look older, we can’t get up in the morning and we allow life-limiting illnesses into our lives and physical pain ensues. Our organism cannot survive. We are killing ourselves.
Guilt is a very powerful and deadening emotion. Guilt in itself can, as it were, close down the energy systems of your body, and thereby lessen, and in extreme cases, cut off the flow of Divine Energy and Love to the body entirely.
Your pain has got nothing to do with them - its yours! If I am hurt, I am hurting myself because nobody is in charge of me - I AM. What has happened can’t be undone just because I wished it were so!
“I will be perceived as weak, they will see my vulnerability, what will they say, I feel so unworthy, I feel I am not good enough, I feel unloved, I don’t deserve this, I will never forgive you for hurting me..................”
Every time you think any of the above thoughts and any other negative destructive belittling self thoughts, you are setting yourself up to be hurt again and again and again. So why do you keep doing the same thing?
If you keep doing the same thing, you are going to keep getting the same results, so if you don’t like what you are getting, change what you are doing. Start off by becoming aware of your thoughts. You are a sum total of your thoughts that you think.
Every time you think a negative thought like: “Life is a struggle”, this thought sends a message to every single cell in your body .
The mind is in every single cell of your body. Your cells are being told that “Life is a struggle”, so that is the message that you resonate with and this thought gets send out into the Universe, and like attracts like. Therefore, this is what you create in your reality and your life becomes a struggle on all levels ie: financial struggle, relationship struggle, life struggle etc.
So, when you find it impossible to forgive another, you remain energetically connected to that person. Therefore, you are allowing the pain, the abuse and the trauma to remain with you. Forgiveness is not something you can or cannot do. It is simply a matter of choosing to change your thoughts, beliefs and ideas about a given situation or person in your life.
The word Forgiveness simply means to let go or release.
At which moment are you going to let go of those judgemental, negative, ugly thoughts that have become so much part of your daily existence? The sad part about it is, that these thoughts have become so much a part of who you believe you are, that you do not even notice them anymore.
Another emotion we love to hold onto is ANGER. You would rather stay angry at the person, than forgive them, and remember when you forgive someone else, you are actually releasing yourself from them.
Suppressed, repressed anger is more lethal than having a weapon. Over a period of time, this kind of suppressed anger will just create dis-ease in the body.
So the choice is yours, you can either stay where you are in life; ‘stuck’ in the victim, the martyr, the not good enough, the I don’t deserve, or you can take your power back right now and start taking responsibility for your thoughts and actions. When you change, your world changes for the better. Look within, that is where you will find the answers, not without. Get in touch with the god within, and let the god within shine outwards.
Are you willing to start the journey of Forgiveness and take control of your thoughts and emotions with all the ups and downs?
Are you willing to allow yourself to become the maginificent human beings that you truly are?
How can light possible filter through to you, when you surround yourself with dark thoughts all the time.
In essence, by not forgiving another, or by not allowing their energy to leave you, you are allowing the pain and the abuse to continue. It is as simply as that. So, the only decision that you have to make regarding forgiveness is that: Am I willing to let go of the pain and abuse, or will I allow this person or situation to persecute me for the rest of this life?
You are human - so are they. When you let go you won’t be using up your time and energy trying to convince yourself of how right you are - it won’t be important any more - HAPPINESS WILL BE.
Remember - There is no way to happiness - happiness IS THE WAY.
Forgiveness is the great release from time.
It is the key to learning that the past is over.
How do we truly forgive ourselves and move on?
The first step is an awareness of the areas in which we hold our judgments, our fears, our angers and all the old patterns (like blame, shame, resentment, etc) that “keep us stuck”.
This requires a commitment to self knowledge and a willingness to forgive. We must take responsibility for our actions and negative thinking. The secrets we hold inside become a burden that haunts us and blocks our self -forgiveness.
As we practise forgiveness, our anger, judgments, fears become less charged. Practising forgiveness is a wonderful process, for it releases you to be truly free to live in your compassionate heart.
You can then hold the vision of what you want and free yourself up to be the Creative Genius that YOU ARE!
I cannot express the importance of self-forgiveness enough, for self-forgiveness and self acceptance are the keys to surviving the upheavals of a turbulent world. Forgiveness of the self, and acceptance of the self, have a direct positive influence upon the functioning of the immune system.
Forgiveness is one of the universal qualities of grace that helps to unblock and allow jov and light to flow. The act of self forgiveness and the process that you go through on a physical, emotional and mental levels will teach you much about the workings of the human psyche. Therefore, it will enable and empower you to embrace others with compassion and true forgiveness. True forgiveness can only come from a guiltless heart, from a soul that has truly forgiven itself and is in the full light of self-acceptance.
So, What Is Forgiveness?
Forgiveness is choosing to change a thought, belief and an emotion - with respect to other people and situations. As everything in the Universe, is energy, forgiveness is also a process of transforming energy.
Forgiveness Is A Choice! As Is, Not Forgiving!
Forgiveness is the most important aspect of your spiritual growth, and it is the forgiveness of the self that hands you the key to the light of your soul.
Forgiveness creates harmony in the Universe because you are handing the other person a passport to more freedom and joy. Become joyous and have fun and start loving who you are and what you do, and live in your truth. All your thougths and emotions are your choice. Your choice is the ultimate freedom.
Through self-forgiveness, self-love becomes growth, and with growth you attain wholeness of being.